MySQL 9.0 Reference Manual Including MySQL NDB Cluster 9.0

B.3.4.6 Deleting Rows from Related Tables

If the total length of the DELETE statement for related_table is more than the default value of the max_allowed_packet system variable, you should split it into smaller parts and execute multiple DELETE statements. You probably get the fastest DELETE by specifying only 100 to 1,000 related_column values per statement if the related_column is indexed. If the related_column is not indexed, the speed is independent of the number of arguments in the IN clause.